You know, it is interesting to live in Ian’s world – living in the shadow of my fighter pilot husband. Maybe if I were a lawyer or a doctor or an actor or some other exciting title I may not have this problem. But no matter where I go or what I do I still have to contend with the fact that I am in Ian’s shadow. ASIDE from all the regular military commitment that goes along with being married to a sailor — not being in charge of where you live, schedules, deployments, etc etc, I have the added bonus that my husband works a 60 hour week at an intensely competitive and high stress job with lots of social commitments and financial expectations. The regular work day can last well into the night with only a days notice. 2+ week detachments can pop up anytime. Suddenly Memorial Day weekend can turn into a boat det, for instance….. (grrrrr) If there is one thing I have learned to depend on over the years, it is the fact that I can NEVER EVER depend on Ian. And, let’s face it, his job is exciting and everyone wants to know about it, even lawyers and doctors and maybe even actors. So wherever we go we have to talk about it ad nauseum. His family. My family. Even my kid is obsessed with military fighter jets. It doesn’t matter that I have been immersed with it for 13 years and find it kind of BORING by now. It is still new and exciting to the relatives and whoever else we may encounter. ‘I take photos of kids and villages’ just does. not. compare.
I admit that I am kind of proud of the fact that finally I have been able to bend his world a little bit to fill MY needs for once. We have verbal orders to Europe and I just could not be any more ecstatic. No one gets that it is a SIDE NOTE in my opinion that it is one of the few career-enhancing jobs for him. Who cares about that! Can’t it be about ME for once??? I will be traveling and taking photos and for once I can actually say that I am married to an aviator and I live my life overseas! (Officer and a Gentleman??? anyone??? You know, I AM Paula the Polack…) We have even fallen into the amazing opportunity to go to Paris this summer. Ian will be flying in the Paris Airshow thanks to the Boeing Corporation, which will take him to Paris, Copenhagen, and Canada. Of course, I have to take advantage of the few deals the Navy throws out here and there so I am planning my trip to join up and appreciate his Per Diem. But, girls, you have GOT to take the opportunities when the come whether they are convenient or not….. that is for sure.
Cheers to those of us who put up with the backseat in this military life….
